September 21, 2015 Uncategorized No Comments

By DR. JOHNNY PARKER

 Mrs. Stone was my sixth grade teacher and she meant well.

I think.

I was placed in what was considered the smartest class, but I hated math. Mrs. Stone’s style was to send a group of students to the blackboard to solve math equations.  I made it all the way to Friday, shuttering and fearful at the thought of hearing her call my name.

Then it happened: “Mintzer … Moskowitz … Parker.”

I had to reduce fractions.  Mintzer and Moskowitz completed their assignments and returned to their seats, leaving me all alone at the blackboard with 30 peers staring at my back. Mrs. Stone grew impatient and made an announcement in front of everyone:

“Johnny, you don’t belong in this class.”

There are storylines for everyone’s story.  But there are also “storylies.”

I made the mistake of believing Mrs. Stone and it became the soundtrack of my life and leadership.  For years I would become angry whenever anyone questioned my competence. But through journaling and therapy, I began to identify the “storylie” that I believed.

There are three “storylies” common to us all:

“I’m not enough.”

“I don’t have what it takes.”

“Someday my life will come together.”

When we don’t know our own story, we allow others to hand us their script. They define our story.

I grieved. I wept and I forgave Mrs. Stone. I never solved the math problem but I resolved to not allow anyone else to write my story.

 

Getting to The Point:

What storylie have you believed?

What story do you want your life to tell?

Written by Johnny Parker
As a relationship architect and executive coach, Dr. Johnny Parker has helped hundreds of men and women experience authentic joy and fulfillment by viewing their life as a story. Dr. Parker is an Associate Professor at Johns Hopkins University. He has also served as a team life coach for the National Football League and WNBA. He holds a Masters in Counseling Psychology and a Doctorate in Strategic Leadership.